Miss Z has broken up with me. I think it was a long time coming… probably ever since I gave up on her, when she was 12, and sent her to live with Dad in another country. In my defence, I couldn’t handle her rebel behaviour, verbal and physical abuse, the complete lack of respect, etc. But of course one…
Milestones…
This is a year of milestones. I could tell you all about how my eldest daughter is now 16 (and knowing it all, as teenagers do), or my son turned 14 and is now taller than me, or the little one turning 11 just a few days ago and now learning to cook with Granny. But the most significant milestone…
A dreaded call…
There’s so many different calls you hope you will never get as a Mother. Today I got one of those. And all things considered, it was one of the possibilities that I could cope with, with some level of calm. My eldest Ms Z calls me in a panic and puts her (new) boyfriend on. “Hi! We have a big…
Are we “over-enabling” our kids?
As soon as I had my first child, the childcare strategy was to have a nanny by the time I went back to work. I was fortunate to have a year off with my first one and our first nanny started when little Miss Z was 9 months old. We were lucky that we had that same nanny for the…
Can you quit the Mom job?
I already feel like I’m a failure as a Mom most days, on account of the fact that I couldn’t handle my eldest daughter and her very strong will to battle every single ounce of authority that I tried to exert on her. And when I say battle, I mean that literally, as I experienced all sorts of verbal and…
Miss you…
There’s several quotes about the number of times you die. Some say it’s twice, some say it’s three times. I prefer the one that says that we all die 3 times. Once is a physical death. Second is when the last person who remembers us forgets/dies. The third is when anything we create is lost or forgotten. My Mom died…
The shift to parenting your parent…
They say that by the time you realise your parents were right, you become a parent yourself. And then you have your own set of big mistakes to make ahead of you. What the pretty phrases you find on Facebook don’t tell you is what happens when you have to become the parent of your parent. It is a total…
Happy New Twenty Three
A new year starting always brings with it the realm of possibilities. We make resolutions, we set goals, we make plans. We book the next holiday 😉 It also allows us to look back and reflect on the year just ended. 2022 was a difficult year. For so many people, for so many reasons… In my personal life, not having my…
In constant doubt…
I find myself getting very nostalgic every time I look through the “memories of the day” on my cloud photos app. It seems like such a distant memory those days when I had 3 sweet kids under the age of 6! I felt, back then, that I was doing a good job as a Mom! Heck, I even started a…
Heatwave…
It happens for about 5 minutes each year. In fact, if you blink, you’ll miss it. But in those 5 minutes, a lot can happen. And so, as if the stresses of every day life, the war in Ukraine, the rising bills and taxes, and the small matter of a political crisis in the UK weren’t enough, we had a…